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How To Move On From Your Ex

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 It is sad when the person that gave you the best memories becomes a memory too but sometimes love isn’t just enough. 1. Cut Off Contacts After a break up whether amicable or not, you need to give yourself time away from them and anything that might trigger more emotions for them.  You can unfollow them from their socials, erase any close contacts you had with them, even if it’s for a while, otherwise you’ll want to see what they are up-to and become jealous or just more bitter.  You might choose to remain friends but you have to give yourself time first before that. 2. Pamper Yourself During a break up, the train of thoughts that criss cross your mind leaves you overwhelmed and drained. You can take this chance and spoil yourself. Go for a vacation. Go get that getaway and just let yourself go!  Some of us might want to take a spa day and relax under the soothing hands calming our muscles and nerves!  Others would want to eat all the ice cream and binge watch. Whatever the case spoil
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7 RED FLAGS IN DATING

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 What are the warning signs we should look out for if/when trying to get into the dating den.  1. Bad Communication Skills We all love us a person who wants to regularly check up on us. Some people will go under the radar and reappear after a while and act as if nothing is wrong.  They want to pick up where you two left off with no explanation and expect you to understand. They are okay with going the whole day without wanting to know how you are doing. They just don’t care enough. You keep bringing up the communication conversation and trying to make them do better but there’s only so many times you can steer the wheel without getting exhausted. 2. They’re Always Busy People make time for who they want to and when they desire to.  If ‘am busy’ becomes their anthem, maybe just maybe you’re not as important as you want to believe you are in their life. Let someone put you up in that position-where you want to be in their life, without you pushing for it. They might have this list of pri
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SIGNS YOU HAVE COMMITMENT ISSUES

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 Some of us find it hard to commit. You may have fear and find it difficult to build a solid romantic relationship that leads to a long term commitment or just choose not to. 1. When Things Get Real You Bail You might have met someone you share a great interest with and enjoy their company, but the moment things starts heading down the serious road, you’d rather demolish that road and bail or just create potholes to make the ride tougher than it should be. If things are looking too promising you decide it’s time to up and go. 2. You Enjoy The Pursuit Too Much Than The Real Deal It’s all thrills and fun when they are trying to get your attention. You love it when the other person is actually prioritizing you and going out of their way to get you. You will entertain them and let them think they can actually get the candy from your candy jar but as soon as you also want their candy too, you start shutting down. In other words the moment they get too interested and you feel like they might
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Five Ways That Women Come Off As Desperate

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It’s only human nature to want to be loved or find a partner. Sometimes we feel like the gods of love just aren’t on our side. This in turn might make some women give desperate vibes off, unintentional as it might be, to get a man to like them. 1. Overly- Affectionate So you just met this guy, but you constantly are melting all over him. Too much affection in a new relationship might come off as smothering and clingy. Men know if/when they have earned your affection and if they deserve it. You might make them wish for space too soon in the relationship.  Am not saying no affection but give what you get, make sure it is being reciprocated. Learn their love language and what works for them before you get too mushy on them. 2. Calling/ Texting too much One of the basic foundations of a relationship is good communication but not one that comes off as nagging. You add a man to your life but don’t make him your life.  It’s impressive to a man if you have your own life going on for you and th
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TRAITS OF A GOOD WOMAN.

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 1. SHE PUTS IN SOME EFFORT. When a woman wants to be the best one yet for you, she goes out of her way to show how much you mean to them. A good woman goes out of her way to maintain a healthy communication in a relationship. This goes past just a ‘hi how are you doing’ dry conversation. This ends up being the monotonous meal no one wants anymore. They want to know how you’re fairing, what’s eating you up and what they can do to make you feel better. They are always deep with you in this aspect. 2. SUPPORTIVE. We all love us a great pillar in our lives. That shoulder to lean on and an ear to whatever we have to say. A great woman will listen keenly to the things you’re fascinated about or issues pulling you down. She encourages you to keep rowing your boat up the hill too. This shows that she’s actually interested in more than just the looks, money or sex.  She wants to connect with you in all areas and be that person you could always count on, even when the spotlight doesn’t seem to
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SIX SIGNS YOU ARE BOTTLING UP YOUR EMOTIONS.

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Bottling emotions is the act of suppressing your feelings instead of expressing them. So many of us use it as a coping mechanism when we're hurting. How do we react when in this situation? 1. DON 'T CARE ATTITUDE.     When someone has been through too much emotionally, or are going through an emotional turmoil, they tend to mask it with an unapproachable trait.  You come off as a person who does not really get affected by what others do to you even when it kills you inside, you'd rather keep your calm in some situations and go break down elsewhere. Or just act unbothered and unattainable. 2. REGULAR TANTRUMS.  When the rain is too much, the river banks tend to burst out. In this case, when you always are keeping things to yourself and cannot tell your partner or anyone else what's troubling you, time to time you will 'explode.'  The bottled up emotions will always find a way of unbottling themselves via petty or avoidable circumstances. Sometimes you just go off
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8 FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS RULE.

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A friend with benefit is that someone that one has a casual, sexual relationship with. We should be quiet sure and mature enough to know how to handle a sexual relationship without attachment, before going into this situationship. 1.HAVE LIMITED EXPECTATIONS. If you’re going to mess with someone just for fun, let it be purely for that.  Don’t get yourself in such a situation thinking that they’ll develop more feelings towards you and want something more in the future. They won’t! And if they do, do you really want someone you had sex with for fun as your long term partner? Can your trust handle that? 2.IT HAS TO BE WITH SOMEONE STRAIGHT FORWARD. It takes a really emotionally matured person to tell you what they want from you beforehand. This is to avoid confusion and misunderstanding. Someone has to be upfront about what they want from you and what they’re willing to do and what they’re not. If it’s what you want, then go for it but if you can’t handle a casual relationship, let that b
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SIX REASONS WHY THEY GHOST YOU.

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Ghosting is the act of someone just cutting off all personal contact they had with another person without an explanation. They just vanish into thin air, never to be heard from again. Most of us are victims of this while some are the pros of the act. 1. TO PROTECT FEELINGS.  Most people don’t want to have to deal with the emotional breakdown that comes with telling someone ‘it’s over.’    They choose to stop communicating and ignore them. They might be protecting their own feelings, they feel like if they went to say it’s over in person they’d be sucked back in, in the event emotions run high.  2.COWARDICE.  I’m sorry but there’s no other way to really put this point across. Some people are just afraid of telling us they are out.   They’ve had the muffin for the longest and their mouth no longer  wishes for a muffin but a cake.  They just don’t have the guts nor the capability to put on their big boys pants and tell you as it is. They’d rather just ignore you till you join the dots and
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