8 FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS RULE.

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A friend with benefit is that someone that one has a casual, sexual relationship with.
We should be quiet sure and mature enough to know how to handle a sexual relationship without attachment, before going into this situationship.

1.HAVE LIMITED EXPECTATIONS.

If you’re going to mess with someone just for fun, let it be purely for that. 
Don’t get yourself in such a situation thinking that they’ll develop more feelings towards you and want something more in the future. They won’t!
And if they do, do you really want someone you had sex with for fun as your long term partner? Can your trust handle that?

2.IT HAS TO BE WITH SOMEONE STRAIGHT FORWARD.

It takes a really emotionally matured person to tell you what they want from you beforehand. This is to avoid confusion and misunderstanding.
Someone has to be upfront about what they want from you and what they’re willing to do and what they’re not. If it’s what you want, then go for it but if you can’t handle a casual relationship, let that boat of thoughts capsize!

3.PRACTICE SAFE SEX.

It’s probably safer to avoid slip ups. You don’t want to have a baby with someone you’re just having fun with and no foreseen nor planned future together. 
 Secondly, they might have other friends that offer the same benefits. If this is the case, they might be having unsafe sex with the others and that puts you at a risk of contracting all sort of STIs. Well, prevention is better than cure.

4.BE OPEN MINDED.

In what sense exactly? Don’t shut out other potential dating candidates just because you got into a situationship that is on an agreement on ‘never getting attached.’
Put yourself out there, since no casual sex lasts forever, it’s just a ‘till I’m ready for a commitment’ badge. By closing yourself off of the world, you’d be robbing yourself an opportunity to get the right one for you- for a long term.
You can always end it when you feel like you found someone who’s worth a shot at a commitment.

5.DON’T BE TOO CLINGY.
 One thing we have to understand is, they just want companionship and fun. Most people get into these situations to avoid drama and complications that come with a real commitment or they’ve had enough and not ready for the roller coaster ride again.
So it’s only normal to be talked to when you’re needed and giving them their space and time. Or talking to them when it seems appropriate.

6.NO INTRODUCTION TO CLOSE FRIENDS OR FAMILY.

We love introducing our friends and partners to our loved ones. It’s an honorable thing to do but also it gives you joy and some pride too. 
But in this case, you want to avoid such attachments. They’re in your life yes, but so very temporarily. Why create bonds between your casual lover with people you hold so close to your heart? 
It’s easier if it’s kept between just the two of you but we are all humans so once in a while we might have that one friend that we let in on what’s happening.

7.NO ROMANTIC PLANS.

This is a platonic friendship with casual fun, hang outs and great sex. Don’t go all in with romantic dinners and romantic gestures. You can always respect them by not making them feel like a tool but no gifts, flowers chocolates. It’s majorly sex and some conversation.

8.MATURITY.

Last but not least, if they want to end the beneficial part of it, let them.
Do not throw tantrums and flip out. Respect their feelings enough to let them walk away from you.
After all, it wasn’t going to be they lived happily ever after in sex only.

CONCLUSION.
If you cannot handle a no strings attachment, do not. Let other people sip red wine while you sip the white wine.

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