SIX SIGNS YOU ARE BOTTLING UP YOUR EMOTIONS.

Bottling emotions is the act of suppressing your feelings instead of expressing them. So many of us use it as a coping mechanism when we're hurting.

How do we react when in this situation?

1. DON 'T CARE ATTITUDE.

    When someone has been through too much emotionally, or are going through an emotional turmoil, they tend to mask it with an unapproachable trait. 

You come off as a person who does not really get affected by what others do to you even when it kills you inside, you'd rather keep your calm in some situations and go break down elsewhere. Or just act unbothered and unattainable.

2. REGULAR TANTRUMS. 

When the rain is too much, the river banks tend to burst out. In this case, when you always are keeping things to yourself and cannot tell your partner or anyone else what's troubling you, time to time you will 'explode.' 

The bottled up emotions will always find a way of unbottling themselves via petty or avoidable circumstances. Sometimes you just go off at your other half when it seems unnecessary. 

You have so much unresolved issues, you let it out in small doses but not regarding any issues that are actually disturbing you.

3. YOU ARE A GOOD ADVISER.

You find that you are very good at giving relationship advices. Since you're not dealing with your own relationship issues, when other people approach you with their predicaments, you find a venue to channel your own through giving them advice.

 

Mostly you enjoy and excel at it but deep down you keep wondering why it is not working out for you and make you get more lonely.

4. FREQUENT HEADCHES.

Since you are often thinking too much and not talking about it, you become conflicted mentally. You find yourself playing different scenarios in the head on how you would do things differently or why it is happening to you.

 

Since you are not addressing the issue at hand nor confiding in anyone, you end up overthinking and stressing out way too much hence the regular head aches.

5. YOU FIND OTHER PEOPLE TOO DRAMATIC OR PETTY.

This mostly applies to their emotional side. You always are thinking of how someone overreacted in a situation. It might be a serious issue to them but you dont't see how that would blow out of proportion.

You are so used to stomaching things and not airing out your concerns that you sort of become numb to sensitive issues. Mostly your partners suffer the most here because they become afraid of expressing how they feel to avoid pissing you off.

To you, it always seem like they just have a flair for drama and should let things be or just not address them at all. It is not you being insensitive intentionally but it is just the way your system is used to working.

6.TROUBLE SLEEPING.

When suppressing emotions, you will have trouble sleeping like insomnia, tossing and turning, generally sleep restlessness.

This might be because your brain is trying to work out your mental issues and is being forced to do so without your help.

When you try sleeping, the brain will take charge of your thoughts and memories and just be working on where to tuck it away. This will definitely deprive you of your good restful sleep.

7. SQUABBLES IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

When your partner does not really know when you are angry, sad or just mad or at what, they also become disturbed and not sure how to handle you. If it becomes a regular thing, they can only put  up with it for so long. You will always be having communication issues.

They might wanna table down whatever trouble there is in paradise, but just don't know how to or when they actually do, are hit with a cold unwanted breeze from your side. This becomes a major problem.

8.SILENT TREATMENT.

We all go through this phase time to time. You strongly feel offended by someone but you'd rather just keep it inside. They'll ask you if all is good and you'll just hit them with a 'am fine.'

They irritate you with their presence and the anger boiling up in you cannot just allow you to have a conversation with them.

CONCLUSION.

Venture out and try to unbottle yourself and let those inner feelings be told in a clear and kind way - having a clear and effective communication helps us reach an understanding and resolve issues before a good foundation becomes just wrecked ruins with no pillars to hold it steady. It is also good for one's mental, physical and emotional state.