8 SIGNS HE’S USING YOU.

This doesn’t necessarily mean using you sexually. He can use you emotionally and also financially. Yes! Even men can use women financially.

Let’s get down to business.

1.INCONSISTENCY.

 This mostly applies to his communication and what he needs you for. If it’s sexual, they tend to only come around when they want to sleep with you and go quiet after your meet up. If it’s money, the same thing happens they always seem to call you when they need to be sorted.

They only resurface when they need to see you again and can never work the other way round for you.

2. DOESN’T SEEM TO CARE TOO MUCH.

There are things that fire up people in relationships. Things a partner cannot just let go. With this man anything you do is cool with him. 

You may say anything or complain about his bad communication and throw a few cuss words here and there but they’ll be just all cool and not really bothered.

Or they’ll just give you a ‘it’s not like that, I’ve just been occupied.’

3. HE’S ALREADY OCCUPIED.

If he has a wife, a girlfriend or a too friendly female friend, then he just needs someone to feel some sort of void he may be having or a quick release whenever it suits him. 

 He doesn’t want anything solid with you, you’d just be the to go girl to hang out with or the regular bootycall.

Discretion would be one of the things they keep insisting on.

4. DOESN’T FUTURE PROJECT.

He never mentions anything about your future together. He’ll do anything to avoid that subject or bring another one up if you do. 

His focus is now and having fun. They tend to use the phrase, ‘ Let’s just have fun and the rest will figure out itself.’

No girl, it won’t. You’re not a part nor a plan of his future.

A man that really wants you for the long term, will always be excited to include you in his future endeavors. 

5. ONE-DIRECTIONAL SEXUAL PLEASURE.

It’s all about how he wants it, what he wants and when.

Most of the times if not all, he’s always the one saying when you should meet up.

 You cannot even suggest a meeting date because you are afraid he’ll turn you down and choose another date.

 And when you meet, the most important thing you’ll end up doing is just the sex. For him the excitement of seeing you ends in the sheets after his release.

6. HE DOESN’T APPRECIATE SURPRISE VISITS.

Hell would break loose if you decided to surprise him at his place if he’s even taken you there at all.

 He makes it known to you that he appreciates a prior notice before going to his place unannounced.

 He wouldn’t even want to bump into you in public places! You’d get a very dry hi or nothing at all.

7. HAS NEVER TAKEN YOU OUT ON A REAL DATE.

All your dates since the first one have always been indoors.

It’s always movie nights and sex. Or they just want you around for companionship. They don’t like being home alone when they have some free time on their hands and what better way to call his to go girl to kill boredom.

 He’s never really put any effort in making you feel special by properly taking you out for a meal and chilling or any sort of treats.

8. IT’S HIS WAY OR THE HIGHWAY.

You always do things his way. There’s no room for questions or debates. He choose what to eat where to hang out, when to do anything.

 If you were meeting on Wednesdays, and he decide to go for Sundays then ‘all hail to the king’- Sunday it is.

 It doesn’t matter if you had your own schedule for Sundays, you let him have them.

CONCLUSION.

Let’s not assume we’re in meaningful relationships with all these red flags. Always ask questions and don’t take a man into you until he offers you himself.

There’s nothing like ‘let fate take its course!’