7 RED FLAGS IN DATING

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 What are the warning signs we should look out for if/when trying to get into the dating den. 

1. Bad Communication Skills



We all love us a person who wants to regularly check up on us. Some people will go under the radar and reappear after a while and act as if nothing is wrong.

 They want to pick up where you two left off with no explanation and expect you to understand. They are okay with going the whole day without wanting to know how you are doing. They just don’t care enough.

You keep bringing up the communication conversation and trying to make them do better but there’s only so many times you can steer the wheel without getting exhausted.


2. They’re Always Busy



People make time for who they want to and when they desire to. 

If ‘am busy’ becomes their anthem, maybe just maybe you’re not as important as you want to believe you are in their life.

Let someone put you up in that position-where you want to be in their life, without you pushing for it. They might have this list of priorities and if you not one of them, then you’ll always come in when they only need you to.

3. You’re More Of A Bootycall



You are like a bat to them. You operate better only when it’s nightfall. 

They are always busy during the day or just can’t hang out in daylight for whatever reasons but as as soon as it’s 11 PM they want you to go over or pick you up.

It’s always night dates and in the house- Always. They put no effort to take you out or see you at any other time. Refuse to be a bat.

4. Possessiveness 

Before them, you had a life. Retain a sense of independence when a new person comes into your life.

Let them not demand you cut off other relationships or friendships just because it suits them. Especially when they have no solid reason why you should. 

You have a right to bring it up for discussion. They might be your main meal but you’re allowed to keep your starters!

5. Don’t Want To Be Seen In Public With You



There’s no reason to keep a relationship a secret unless there shouldn’t be one or they just want to entertain other people or they already are doing so.

There’s a difference between “I want a private one,” and them hiding you. When they insist on how ‘private’ they want it, it might just be an excuse.

They are extremely hesitant to be anywhere with you in public. You might have other sister baes or you might be the side chic.

6. You Know No one In Their Life



You have been going out for a while trying to date someone, but you don’t know anyone in their life- not even a friend!

You are the one who’s always introducing them to your friends, workmates or even some family members but on their side, you don’t even know any names of their friends.

When someone likes you enough, they talk about you often and want to introduce you to some of the people in their life. Blossoming flowers are always shown off, you might just not be the flower they want to show off.

7. You Defend Them And Their Actions A Lot



Last but not least, you are always defending their actions to friends or family.

When we’re falling for someone we tend to be blinded by the emotions, but people around us are not.

When they bring up his/her behavior, you are always quick to jump in and defend them. 

You find yourself using these phrases a lot, “they are not always like that” or “they’re really sweet when you get to know them” and “they have a soft spot.”

In Conclusion,

Do not fall in love with the potential of a relationship but the actual relationship. No matter how relationships get, take care of yourself first.



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