The Bubble Of Relationships

Bottling emotions is the act of suppressing your feelings instead of expressing them. So many of us use it as a coping mechanism when we're hurting. How do we react when in this situation? 1. DON 'T CARE ATTITUDE.     When someone has been through too much emotionally, or are going through an emotional turmoil, they tend to mask it with an unapproachable trait.  You come off as a person who does not really get affected by what others do to you even when it kills you inside, you'd rather keep your calm in some situations and go break down elsewhere. Or just act unbothered and unattainable. 2. REGULAR TANTRUMS.  When the rain is too much, the river banks tend to burst out. In this case, when you always are keeping things to yourself and cannot tell your partner or anyone else what's troubling you, time to time you will 'explode.'  The bottled up emotions will always find a way of unbottling themselves via petty or avoidable circumstances. Sometimes you just go off...

A friend with benefit is that someone that one has a casual, sexual relationship with. We should be quiet sure and mature enough to know how to handle a sexual relationship without attachment, before going into this situationship. 1.HAVE LIMITED EXPECTATIONS. If you’re going to mess with someone just for fun, let it be purely for that.  Don’t get yourself in such a situation thinking that they’ll develop more feelings towards you and want something more in the future. They won’t! And if they do, do you really want someone you had sex with for fun as your long term partner? Can your trust handle that? 2.IT HAS TO BE WITH SOMEONE STRAIGHT FORWARD. It takes a really emotionally matured person to tell you what they want from you beforehand. This is to avoid confusion and misunderstanding. Someone has to be upfront about what they want from you and what they’re willing to do and what they’re not. If it’s what you want, then go for it but if you can’t handle a casual relationship, let th...

Ghosting is the act of someone just cutting off all personal contact they had with another person without an explanation. They just vanish into thin air, never to be heard from again. Most of us are victims of this while some are the pros of the act. 1. TO PROTECT FEELINGS.  Most people don’t want to have to deal with the emotional breakdown that comes with telling someone ‘it’s over.’    They choose to stop communicating and ignore them. They might be protecting their own feelings, they feel like if they went to say it’s over in person they’d be sucked back in, in the event emotions run high.  2.COWARDICE.  I’m sorry but there’s no other way to really put this point across. Some people are just afraid of telling us they are out.   They’ve had the muffin for the longest and their mouth no longer  wishes for a muffin but a cake.  They just don’t have the guts nor the capability to put on their big boys pants and tell you as it is. They’d rather jus...

Sometimes we sail a relationship for so long, hold onto it and try to steer it to the path that we want, but we can only do that for so long and if it’s not going our way, we should decide to let that ship sail away.  When should we walk away? 1. THE TOLERANCE ASPECT.  As much as we should persevere in relationships and compromise, it only applies to reasonable things that won’t drain us emotionally and won’t feel forced.  If a relationship starts to feel more of a burden and you are more of tolerating your partner than enjoying their presence in your life, blow that candle out as much as it would be a hard one to.   If it feels like you have given it your all but it’s not working out and you have to be with them for other reasons other than love and willingness to, call it off before you drown anymore. 2. SEX FEELS LIKE A CHORE. One of the exciting parts in a couple’s life is great sexual chemistry. It starts to feel forced and you’re only doing it because that’s wh...

This doesn’t necessarily mean using you sexually. He can use you emotionally and also financially. Yes! Even men can use women financially. Let’s get down to business. 1. INCONSISTENCY .  This mostly applies to his communication and what he needs you for. If it’s sexual, they tend to only come around when they want to sleep with you and go quiet after your meet up. If it’s money, the same thing happens they always seem to call you when they need to be sorted. They only resurface when they need to see you again and can never work the other way round for you. 2. DOESN’T SEEM TO CARE TOO MUCH. There are things that fire up people in relationships. Things a partner cannot just let go. With this man anything you do is cool with him.  You may say anything or complain about his bad communication and throw a few cuss words here and there but they’ll be just all cool and not really bothered. Or they’ll just give you a ‘it’s not like that, I’ve just been occupied.’ 3. HE’S ALREADY OCCUP...

Relationships are challenging enough as they are. So it’s even more challenging when your better half is miles away from you. Might be because of unavoidable circumstances like what we’re currently going through- the limitation/cessation of movement or employment purposes. How do we make this work? 1.REGULAR COMMUNICATION. Communication is a strong pillar in relationships. When it’s regular it keeps you closer and helps in not falling out.   Text, audio call and even video call each other as often as possible. Making these small talks day in day out sums up to a stronger connection. 2.MAKE IT STEAMY. You can talk dirty once in a while, but do this in a manner that won’t come off as perverted. As much as you want to know how their day was and how they’re holding up, you also want them to feel the sexual chemistry is still intact and even distance can’t change that. This just makes you keep yearning for them even more. 3.BE BIG ON TRUST. You have to believe in your partner and a...

It’s sad and unfortunate that we have found ourselves in a web of panic and confusion amidst this pandemic.[Covid 19].  One of the safety measures in place, is to stay home and only go out when necessary. So what do we do as we are in the quarantine season to kill boredom and have fun. Here we go!  Play 21 Questions.  Let’s just go old school and ask questions. We might have done this when we first started dating them, but you can always find out more about your partner. You can even make it dirtier, I mean why not? Just to spice things up. You can get cheeky and ask about his secrets or fears(and use them against him later)- just kidding. Let it just be purely for fun.  Cook-offs. Find a recipe, might be something you both have never tried or a dish you love, and cook it. Compete to see who prepares it in less time with no much mess and with a perfect outcome. You’d then blindfold them and give them a taste of both your food and watch which one they react to positiv...