8 SIGNS YOU NEED TO WALK AWAY.

Sometimes we sail a relationship for so long, hold onto it and try to steer it to the path that we want, but we can only do that for so long and if it’s not going our way, we should decide to let that ship sail away.

 When should we walk away?

1. THE TOLERANCE ASPECT.

 As much as we should persevere in relationships and compromise, it only applies to reasonable things that won’t drain us emotionally and won’t feel forced.

 If a relationship starts to feel more of a burden and you are more of tolerating your partner than enjoying their presence in your life, blow that candle out as much as it would be a hard one to.

 

If it feels like you have given it your all but it’s not working out and you have to be with them for other reasons other than love and willingness to, call it off before you drown anymore.

2. SEX FEELS LIKE A CHORE.

One of the exciting parts in a couple’s life is great sexual chemistry.

It starts to feel forced and you’re only doing it because that’s what couples are expected to do. Most of the times you don’t even want to do it at all and cringe at their touch.

 

You might want it but the partner has become avoidant about it. Don’t force it.

3. EMOTIONALLY DISTANT.

 If you’re the one who’s fallen out of love, you’ll want time to yourself. Even when you’re with them, you’re not really with them. You don’t long to do romantic and fun things together anymore. 

You don’t want to spend time with them at all and when you do, it is out of obligation. You are okay with not seeing them as regular as you used to. 

If you live together, you prefer staying in another room away from them and if you’re in the same room, there’s just total awkward silence.

4. CHEATING.

Some partners might decide to work things out after being cheated on but if they were okay cheating one time, how sure are you they won’t do it again? It is a hard pill to swallow and would want to make it work but will the trust be as it was before?

 Don’t tolerate a cheater in the name of love, you better love yourself enough to walk away. They should respect a commitment enough to stay loyal.

5. THE SPARK HAS FADED.

You no longer excite each other. The chemistry just dies for whatever reason. You dont even look forward to seeing each other.

You actually enjoy time away from them and alone than when you’re with them. If you live together, you become more of roommates than partners. It’s challenging to be in a relationship, imagine a ‘spark-less’ one- not worth it.

6. CONSTANTLY TALKS DOWN ON YOU.

If your partner is always degrading you, there’s nothing you do that appears to please them.

They’re always belittling your efforts. They keep correcting you be it in speech or ways of doing something, even in public. 

 

They disregard your efforts and ignore your achievements or even dismiss them when you tell them. When you decide to talk to them about how they make you feel, they still see it as being childish or petty and don’t really take your feelings into consideration. Despite the efforts to make them realize they’re hurting your feelings, they still continue to belittle you. 

7. YOUR INSTINCTS TELL YOU IT’S DONE.

More often than not, we know when it’s working and when it’s not.

When things start going south in your relationship, and you just take time to analyze your situation, deep down you get to know and feel that it’s not working out anymore.

 

This is after you have seen all the red flags, tried to communicate and act upon them but still it’s no pony rides, slides nor swings at the park. Intuitively you just realize there’s nothing to salvage anymore.

8. IT DRAINS YOU.

A relationship is not a walk in the park but it’s also not a job in the mines, it shouldn’t be too draining.

 If you are in a situation where it takes up all your energy, you’re emotionally, physically and mentally exhausted for just being with your patner, it’s time to up and go. It becomes a burden just being with them and continue to jeopardize your mental health.

You’d rather be single, sane and at peace than in an exhausting relationship.

CONCLUSION.

 Relationships are meant to be exciting, fun and stumbling blocks here and there but, let’s not let one consume us into forgetting who we are trying to please the other party or just to protect their feelings.