The Bubble Of Relationships

Sometimes we sail a relationship for so long, hold onto it and try to steer it to the path that we want, but we can only do that for so long and if it’s not going our way, we should decide to let that ship sail away.  When should we walk away? 1. THE TOLERANCE ASPECT.  As much as we should persevere in relationships and compromise, it only applies to reasonable things that won’t drain us emotionally and won’t feel forced.  If a relationship starts to feel more of a burden and you are more of tolerating your partner than enjoying their presence in your life, blow that candle out as much as it would be a hard one to.   If it feels like you have given it your all but it’s not working out and you have to be with them for other reasons other than love and willingness to, call it off before you drown anymore. 2. SEX FEELS LIKE A CHORE. One of the exciting parts in a couple’s life is great sexual chemistry. It starts to feel forced and you’re only doing it because that’s wh...

This doesn’t necessarily mean using you sexually. He can use you emotionally and also financially. Yes! Even men can use women financially. Let’s get down to business. 1. INCONSISTENCY .  This mostly applies to his communication and what he needs you for. If it’s sexual, they tend to only come around when they want to sleep with you and go quiet after your meet up. If it’s money, the same thing happens they always seem to call you when they need to be sorted. They only resurface when they need to see you again and can never work the other way round for you. 2. DOESN’T SEEM TO CARE TOO MUCH. There are things that fire up people in relationships. Things a partner cannot just let go. With this man anything you do is cool with him.  You may say anything or complain about his bad communication and throw a few cuss words here and there but they’ll be just all cool and not really bothered. Or they’ll just give you a ‘it’s not like that, I’ve just been occupied.’ 3. HE’S ALREADY OCCUP...

Relationships are challenging enough as they are. So it’s even more challenging when your better half is miles away from you. Might be because of unavoidable circumstances like what we’re currently going through- the limitation/cessation of movement or employment purposes. How do we make this work? 1.REGULAR COMMUNICATION. Communication is a strong pillar in relationships. When it’s regular it keeps you closer and helps in not falling out.   Text, audio call and even video call each other as often as possible. Making these small talks day in day out sums up to a stronger connection. 2.MAKE IT STEAMY. You can talk dirty once in a while, but do this in a manner that won’t come off as perverted. As much as you want to know how their day was and how they’re holding up, you also want them to feel the sexual chemistry is still intact and even distance can’t change that. This just makes you keep yearning for them even more. 3.BE BIG ON TRUST. You have to believe in your partner and a...

It’s sad and unfortunate that we have found ourselves in a web of panic and confusion amidst this pandemic.[Covid 19].  One of the safety measures in place, is to stay home and only go out when necessary. So what do we do as we are in the quarantine season to kill boredom and have fun. Here we go!  Play 21 Questions.  Let’s just go old school and ask questions. We might have done this when we first started dating them, but you can always find out more about your partner. You can even make it dirtier, I mean why not? Just to spice things up. You can get cheeky and ask about his secrets or fears(and use them against him later)- just kidding. Let it just be purely for fun.  Cook-offs. Find a recipe, might be something you both have never tried or a dish you love, and cook it. Compete to see who prepares it in less time with no much mess and with a perfect outcome. You’d then blindfold them and give them a taste of both your food and watch which one they react to positiv...

Relationships don’t have to be tough and too serious all the time. Sometimes all we need are the little things added together day in day out and we’re in a sailboat of happiness. They may seem like non-issues to many but they count a lot. TRUST I had to start with this one. If there’s no trust in a relationship, the foundation screams weak already.  No one likes to be doubted by their patner every minute. Give them that freedom and trust that they’ll do what’s  right and respectful towards you and your relationship. COMPLIMENTS  Everyone likes if not loves to be complimented. Try and do that to your partner whenever it deems fit.  For example; if he gets a new haircut and is staring at the mirror, a ‘you look great love,’ would go a long way and even stroke his ego. GRATITUDE Being greatful is an amazing trait.   For any gesture, doesn’t matter how big or small, it’s always honorable to appreciate it. It might be just picking up the laundry from the cleaner...

We often hear about toxic relationships. What Is A toxic relationship? How do we know we are in one. That’s what I want to briefly address. A toxic relationship is one where one patner has self absorbed characters and tendencies that leave the other patner emotionally physically and mentally drained. The partner that’s on the receiving end of the toxicity tend to put up with more than he/she should. So how do we know we’re in a toxic relationship? 1. Selfishness   You find that you tend to let them get away with whatever they want almost all the time.                           We do this just because we’re afraid to get into an unnecessary fight with them if they don’t get their way. You are always the one compromising. 2. Disrespect You Even in the public eye They do not seem to understand that there’s a place and time for a confrontation. For example you’d be in a mart shopping and you get a brand of what they like ...