The Bubble Of Relationships

Bottling emotions is the act of suppressing your feelings instead of expressing them. So many of us use it as a coping mechanism when we're hurting. How do we react when in this situation? 1. DON 'T CARE ATTITUDE.     When someone has been through too much emotionally, or are going through an emotional turmoil, they tend to mask it with an unapproachable trait.  You come off as a person who does not really get affected by what others do to you even when it kills you inside, you'd rather keep your calm in some situations and go break down elsewhere. Or just act unbothered and unattainable. 2. REGULAR TANTRUMS.  When the rain is too much, the river banks tend to burst out. In this case, when you always are keeping things to yourself and cannot tell your partner or anyone else what's troubling you, time to time you will 'explode.'  The bottled up emotions will always find a way of unbottling themselves via petty or avoidable circumstances. Sometimes you just go off...

A friend with benefit is that someone that one has a casual, sexual relationship with. We should be quiet sure and mature enough to know how to handle a sexual relationship without attachment, before going into this situationship. 1.HAVE LIMITED EXPECTATIONS. If you’re going to mess with someone just for fun, let it be purely for that.  Don’t get yourself in such a situation thinking that they’ll develop more feelings towards you and want something more in the future. They won’t! And if they do, do you really want someone you had sex with for fun as your long term partner? Can your trust handle that? 2.IT HAS TO BE WITH SOMEONE STRAIGHT FORWARD. It takes a really emotionally matured person to tell you what they want from you beforehand. This is to avoid confusion and misunderstanding. Someone has to be upfront about what they want from you and what they’re willing to do and what they’re not. If it’s what you want, then go for it but if you can’t handle a casual relationship, let th...

Ghosting is the act of someone just cutting off all personal contact they had with another person without an explanation. They just vanish into thin air, never to be heard from again. Most of us are victims of this while some are the pros of the act. 1. TO PROTECT FEELINGS.  Most people don’t want to have to deal with the emotional breakdown that comes with telling someone ‘it’s over.’    They choose to stop communicating and ignore them. They might be protecting their own feelings, they feel like if they went to say it’s over in person they’d be sucked back in, in the event emotions run high.  2.COWARDICE.  I’m sorry but there’s no other way to really put this point across. Some people are just afraid of telling us they are out.   They’ve had the muffin for the longest and their mouth no longer  wishes for a muffin but a cake.  They just don’t have the guts nor the capability to put on their big boys pants and tell you as it is. They’d rather jus...